SOME THOUGHTS FOR A DOMINANT.
If you cannot stop her in mid stride with a single glance...
If you cannot take her breath away with a single word...
If you cannot drop her to her knees with a single gesture...
If you cannot make her body quiver with a single touch...
All the toys and tools in the world will not win her...
Open her mind, explore her heart, demonstrate your love, and she will submit
her body and soul without fear or doubt.
KEY I: Seek the truth and be patient:
The chemistry of D/s feels good but I resist the urge to move forward too eagerly. I know it is critical to take the time to learn, observe, and assess, each other. My servant must trust Me and I must feel more than simple attraction for her. When we allow sufficient time to feel comfortable with each other, she will serve Me better and our relationship will grow stronger.
KEY 2: Give feedback and accept it:
I am gentle but truthful with My servant. I tell her what I see, think, and feel, as our D/s bond grows. I am honest about her progress and I make every reasonable effort avoid ambiguity and confusion. I encourage and empower her to assess her feelings and her perception of Me and to give honest feedback about My performance. When we have established open and frank communication, she will serve Me better and our relationship will grow stronger.
KEY 3: Expose weakness and resistance:
One of My roles is to help My servant expose her character, recognize her weaknesses, and see herself clearly. I am patient and firm with her until she can drop her defenses and embrace the truth. When she can make the commitment to become a better person, she will serve Me better and our relationship will grow stronger.
KEY 4: Establish vision and plan for tomorrow:
My servant must trust that I have her best interests at heart and develop a clear vision of our relationship and how it fits into her life. I have high expectations for her and expect her to agree with My hopes for her. I help her to create a plan for her future and provide her with guidance and support as she progresses toward her goals. When My servant knows and understands the positive effects of our D/s relationship upon her life, she will serve Me better and our relationship will grow stronger.
KEY 5: Observe and mirror:
I observe and interact with My servant objectively and compassionately. I demonstrate My attention and My intentions toward her by consistently reflecting what I see and feel. I am honest, gentle, and loving, when sharing what I think and feel. When we keep the lines of communication open in both directions, she will serve Me better and our relationship will grow stronger.
KEY 6: Teach and accept responsibility:
My efforts to teach, guide, and motivate My servant, help her become all she is capable of being. I consistently demonstrate that I find joy and fulfillment in taking responsibility. When she knows she is a treasure to Me and why, she will serve Me better and our relationship will grow stronger.
KEY 7: Recognize, celebrate, and reinforce:
I am patient with My servant's weaknesses and quick to recognize success. I acknowledge her accomplishments and success and consistently remind her that I value her as a person. I look for improvements and opportunities to celebrate her growth and I know that positive reinforcement encourages her to serve Me better and helps our relationship grow stronger.