Some are confused and some are just lazy!


SUBMISSION is not PASSIVE:

Learning a new idea or concept can be difficult, whether it's a cognitive learning experience, like Algebra, or a physical response, like catching and throwing a ball, or an emotional response like controlling anger.

I feel that most of the things I have learned and tried to share with others in the BDSM, D/s, and Alternate Life styles, are inherent, instinctive, things. That is; Emotional reactions that are biologically programmed. They are part of what I call "Reptile Wisdom," things we just know without being taught.


Certainly, humans are culturally adaptable and we can change our responses to accommodate things we are taught are culturally acceptable or morally right, BUT the basic aspects of D/s behavior are rooted in evolutionary biology.

I find many subs think that passivity is the same as submission. This is a cultural or learned thing and in my view that is the furthest thing from true. Simply "allowing" a Man to use you, without resisting, isn't submission, it is SURRENDERING your choices.

Nature selects the best traits for survival, and passivity is an extremely poor survival technique. In fact the most successful females in primates are the least passive. They understand instinctively that submission involves seeking out a Dominate male and actively seducing him. They know it's important to CHOOSE the best Mate, and then to submit themselves; that is to OFFER themselves for his pleasures.

I interned for several months at the Yerkes Primate Institute in Atlanta, Georgia, observing Lowland Gorilla behavior in as close to a natural setting as possible. I assure you that submission often means serving the Alpha's needs and desires in a very aggressive way! The female follows her evolutionary programming which provides her with biological rewards for finding and bonding with an Alpha male. It's impossible to ask a gorilla what she "feels" when she successfully mates with "Willy" the Dominant Male, but one can see clearly the effort she puts into stalking and enticing Him.. and the pleasure and security she enjoys from that bond.

I have nearly 30 years of polygynous lifestyle experience. My small "tribe" is made up of generally Alpha type females, and they are selected for their eager minds and self-esteem as well as their ability to please Me. MY servant is expected to be clever, imaginative, eager, and enthusiastic and each of My servants, reports a significant "difference" in being with Me in comparison to being with other less dominant men. 


It's difficult to quantify, but I believe that emotional fulfillment is a MOOD created within the mind through limbic chemistry. Most BDSM behavior and D/s play is an effort to trigger this brain chemistry that is an adapted biological reward for finding the "proper" Mate.  I call this feeling "Belonging."

I expect that you to enjoy "stalking" your Master and "presenting" yourself to him in an enticing manner. Tease and play upon His maleness and His desires to bring him the maximum pleasure. Listen to His breathing as he becomes aroused. Feel the tension in His muscles and enjoy the intense throbbing as His penis becomes thick and hard. Bring Him to a fever of lust and feel His hot semen spew forth into your spasming pussy, then lay with Him and feel Him relax slowly and slip away from the grip of your drooling vagina.  All these GUT feelings and gooey fluids are important to the emotional communication between you and your Master.  Revel in these feelings and the emotional fulfillment you experience, they are Nature's reward for being a good girl..

If your CULTURE becomes an impediment to this, If you are so brain washed by a MORAL CODE that you cannot find the intense joy that Nature provides us, then it is time to reprogram your emotions. This joy is inherently a part of us. It is a great gift from our ancestral genetics and to deny yourself this joy, In My view, is a mistake and a sin against nature.