To My "family" I provide an ICON. Master, Father, Teacher, Lover, Mentor, Guardian, and MORE. Those who serve me and attach to Me find Inspiration, Purpose, Leadership, and a sense of Belonging, with Me.

To the Alternate Lifestyle Community at large, I offer My Thoughts here and in many other places. I have consistently tried to share My knowledge of the NATURE of Human social behavior, as I find that many people in our "Modern" world are unnattached, dissappointed, and insecure.

I hold Degrees in Anthropology, Sociology, and Psychology and I have spent much of the past 30 years studying Human Behavior, from field observation, all the way to bench science on specific Brain function.  I understand how and why Dominant and subordinate, behavior evolved. I am happy to discuss the aspects of microbial evolution upon animal behavior, or the chemistry of Polypeptides and receptor cells within the limbic Brain.

BUT those who visit this site are probably not seeking the kind of specific science hinted at in the last few pages.

This site focuses on reconciling HUMAN DESIRE with HUMAN BEHAVIOR.. It is about Fulfillment, Purpose and Ultimately, being HAPPY.

The Dalai Lama addressed His followers and the world at large at the millennium with the following thoughts taken from an Nepalese Good Luck Mantra:

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

2. When you lose... Don't lose the lesson.

3. Follow the three Rs: Respect for self, Respect for others, and Responsibility for all your actions.
4. Not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.
5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
6. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
7. When you realise you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
8. Spend some time alone every day.
9. Open your arms to change, but don't let go your values.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.
12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.
13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
14. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
15. Be gentle with the earth.
16. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
18. Judge your success by what you had to up in order to get it.
19. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

Peace and Contentment are not cultivated through aversion and suppression. They come through seeing what is harmonious with this universe and what isn't, and then acting accordingly.

Strive to develop a gentle kind of self discipline, understand that it is appropriate to say NO to yourself, learn to bring our thoughts, feelings and actions into alignment with what you know to be true. An undisciplined mind is much like an unrestrained child, throwing temper tantrums, fits of wanting, and avoiding.

SUCCESS for an Alpha:
An ALPHA has no problem achieving success. I need only to indicate My desires and others are eager to help Me. My agenda is usually achieved with remarkable ease.

As a young Man, in My twenties, I began to see how this promotes laziness and leads to a lack of PERSONAL discipline. I resolved to learn DISCIPLINE.. To remake Myself into someone who could be proud of My achievements and MOTIVATE those who love and respect Me to find purpose and energy within their lives.

Becoming a PGA Golf Professional was the most difficult thing I have ever achieved. Golf is a totally arbitrary and individual sport. No one can HELP Me to succeed. I am forced to Practice and whatever success I achieve depends totally upon My PERSONAL efforts.

My "family" often seeks My counsel and finds energy in My words. Those who love Me and seek to please Me, EXPECT high standards to be set and maintained. Working toward mutually agreed upon Goals, with Commitment and Enthusiasm, is the essence of DISCIPLINE.  SELF-ESTEEM arises from the effort as much as the success.

WORK as Meditation:
What one does for work is an important aspect of one's life and a reflection of one's Ego or self, but I believe even the simplest of our daily tasks can be a blessing.

Being "useful" can provide both a window into one's soul and a sense of fulfillment that brings personal joy.

The monks and lamas of the East frequently retreat to simple repetitive tasks to renew themselves and help them focus upon life as a process of growth.

But remember, the value of any work is related to doing it well. Work can relieve stress and be a fulfilling experience, if you pay rapt attention to it's progress and focus upon it's quality.

Work that is Physically demanding and intellectually simple is especially valuable for growing a better attachment to one's soul.

The "Mind" is a function or effect of our bio-chemistry and of the the physical brain interacting with the Universe. Sentience or self-awareness implies a responsibility to shape our own thoughts, emotions and life experience.

Thoughts and feelings are much like music played from an instrument. The mind is our instrument and the notes of this music are only limited by the skills, discipline and talent of the musician.

Each of us must holds an obligation to influence both the quality and quantity of our music!